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Well Being Newsletter
April 2007
Vol. 2 No. 4
WELCOME
Do you want to reframe worrying? It's worth it. Please let me know if you if you are still worrying after you read this month's article!
Two special events are coming up soon. Look below to find out more about the afternoon retreat From Intention to Reality: Creating Deeper Wholeness for You and the World on April 22 and the Bosnia Internship Benefit Nia class on May 20.
In wellness,
Susan Tate, M.A.
Editor
www.wawellness.com
REFRAME WORRYING
Never trouble trouble till trouble troubles you!
-Unknown
Spoken often by my friend, Phyllis Fontana
Are you really good at worrying? Do you believe that it makes you a better person (partner, mother, father, daughter, son, friend) if you worry about someone? Do you think that your level of worry has a direct correlation to keeping a loved one safe? Do you think it proves your love for someone if you have a high level of worry? If so, here's a new view to consider.
Worrying does not protect your loved ones and it takes a lot of energy from your daily activities to worry. Is there a better use for your time and energy? I think so.
I believe women are particularly good at worrying. I have often wondered if those of us who are mothers have some kind of genetic coding that provides a deep basis for thinking that if we worry about our children we could win the mother-of-the-year award. Well, I gave up worrying when my son, Zac, turned 16 and began driving. That's when I realized that worrying had no correlation to whether or not he was safe. There just wasn't enough time to focus all my thoughts in that negative way--so I switched to envisioning him safe and realizing that if he wasn't, I would be able to handle it. I discovered that sometimes he was safe and sometimes he wasn't. I learned I really couldn't control what was happening in his life--only mine. He's now 31 and I notice that "concern" often creeps into my thinking, but not "worry." There have been times when he wasn't safe--and I've survived.
This concept of not worrying has come in handy as my daughter, Molly, takes off on her unique career path. She has been studying to earn a master's degree in international disaster psychology. Molly will be completing her program with an internship in Bosnia this summer and I will send her off with prayerful thoughts of safety and peace rather than fear.
I have also learned to watch my words as I say goodbye to loved ones. It's been my intent to choose empowering words rather than fearful ones. I no longer say, "Be careful!" because the assumption is that the person wasn't already planning to be careful. So I now say "I know you'll have a wonderful time!" or "I know you'll enjoy the trip - have fun!"
Worrying just isn't worth the energy drain. The next time you feel worried, try replacing that thought with a prayer or a trusting image and see if it makes you feel less angst. For some, it might take a while to reprogram that pattern of thinking. It seems worth the effort though, to do the reframing, don't you think?
I once heard that worrying over the things we can't control is a waste of time because we can't control them. Worrying over the things we can control is a waste of time because we can control them. So, why worry?
What do you value more, peace of mind or worrying? Maybe Bobby McFarrin has the right idea in his old song, "Don't worry, be happy!" It's your choice.
BODY & SOUL-BASED NOURISHMENT
I offer wellness education and counseling for people who want to improve their relationship with food, fitness and stress-reduction.
Telephone coaching is available for those subscribers living outside the Seattle area. Call (425) 238-2885.
NIA CLASS SCHEDULE
April/May 2007
The Dance Space
124 N. 103rd Street
Seattle, WA 98133
Tuesday 9:30 am (Susan/Anna)
Thursday 9:30 am (Pauline/Anna)
Thursday 6:15 pm (Susan) *No class May 3
Saturday 9:30 am (Susan)
Saturday 10:45 am GENTLE NIA (Susan)
Anna has the opportunity to extend her stay in Africa so Pauline and I will continue to sub at her Tues./Thurs. morning classes until she returns the second week in May.
No prior Nia experience is necessary and all levels of fitness will find a welcoming atmosphere at The Dance Space!
$13 drop in/discounted class cards: $88/8 classes in 2 months
Nia classes worldwide: www.NiaNow.com
Seattle classes: www.niaseattle.com
UPCOMING WORKSHOPS & SPECIAL CLASSES
From Intention to Reality: Creating Deeper Wholeness for You and the World
The Dance Space
Sunday, April 22, 2007
1:00 - 4:-00 pm
$45
Tell me what it is you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?
-Mary Oliver
Inspired by the film, The Secret, this afternoon retreat promises to take you to the next level of self-discovery and practical action planning. You will be guided to set goals in six major aspects of wellness: Spiritual, Financial, Relational, Physical, Occupational and Intellectual. Plan to create a valuable blueprint intended to propel you forward on a vital, exciting and rewarding life path. You will have the opportunity to look at what gifts you have to give, how you can best be of service and how you can thrive in the life your soul intended.
Facilitator: Susan Tate,
Registration: email susan@wawellness.com
Space is limited.
Peace Pals Leadership Nature Retreat
Mt. Evans Outdoor Education Laboratory
Evergreen, Colorado
May 5-6, 2007
Retreat for refugee children re-located to the Denver area
Nia facilitator: Susan Tate
Bosnia Internship Benefit Nia class
The Dance Space
Sunday, May 20, 2007
Noon - 1:00 pm
Instructor: Susan Tate
By donation
Proceeds from this class will go toward my daughter's expenses for her summer internship in Bosnia & Herzegovina. Molly has spent the last two years working with refugee families and children while studying for a master's degree in International Psychology at the University of Denver. Her internship placement will be with a non-governmental organization (NGO) for ten weeks. Molly will be providing psychosocial interventions for children and adolescents who have been affected by the war. If you are unable to attend this benefit class but still want to contribute, please send your donation (checks written to Molly Firkaly) to Washington Wellness Associates, PO Box 722, Edmonds, WA 98020 Thank you!
Cruisin' with Susan to the Mexican Riviera
Aboard the Royal Caribbean's Vision of the Seas
November 4 - 11, 2007
Enjoy Nia and Body & Soul-Based Nourishment at sea
Facilitator: Susan Tate
Great rates starting from $693
Book now - $250 holds your spot. Space is limited.
Call Beth Young (206) 433-0721 or toll free (800) 762-1446
QUOTE OF THE MONTH
It is human nature to wish to compel others to do as we think they ought to do. It is divine to see that their own way is their true way.
- Emma Curtis Hopkins
I welcome your comments and would love to hear how this newsletter supports your wellness journey. Please email me at susan@wawellness.com
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